One thing that fascinates me about being in business for yourself is that the doubts, tough decisions and fear of failure – or success – never really leave you.
I definitely think they diminish as you gain more confidence and experience as an entrepreneur, and see growth in your business, but it never really goes away.
And along with growth, comes growing pains like having to hire more team members, invest in better systems, create better processes, and figure out how to scale without losing your values you’ve built your business on.
In essence this is you progressing to the next stage and needing to step up, and that requires guts.
I often get asked who I turn to when I’m taking a significant leap forward, when I need a pep talk, a dose of advice and insights or some serious focus.
My answer is I look to my mentors, accountability partners and friends. I also love TED videos and listening to podcasts or interviewing key movers and shakers for my podcast.
However nothing tops being part of a whole weekend of inspiration One where you’re surrounded by, and exposed to wonderful and smart people you can totally relate to.
People who have done some serious thinking, pondered the big questions, and then come up with the insights and strategies you need to hear.
Enter The World Domination Summit
It’s my second year running that I’ve attended this summit in Portland, and not only had it doubled in size, it had doubled in terms of the quality of speakers, access to a great variety of workshops, activities and an atmosphere where anything seemed possible.
I’d like to share the copious notes I took during the weekend in a much shorter format, spread out over several key blog posts during the month of August, and in a way that provides you with inspiration you can apply today, to create more brilliance in your life and business, tomorrow.
Important Note: I’m giving away a ticket to the 2013 World Domination Summit valued at $500 this Sunday. Make sure you are in the draw to win it.
Now let’s get on today’s insights.
Don’t be afraid to get naked
Your experience here can not exceed your willingness to be vulnerable ~ Brene Brown.
We avoid vulnerability to not feel shame, scarcity, fear, anxiety or uncertainty.
We put on armour and leave it on, get locked in, and never take it off to let people in, or to be the person we want to be.
But if you’re vulnerable you can experience love, belonging, joy, hope, empathy, creativity, innovation, gratitude, adaptability. We need to get naked again.
When we lose our capacity for vulnerability joy becomes foreboding. For example you think you don’t deserve to be successful or to have a wonderful loving partner because thinking like that means you believe you won’t get hurt. But you still will be.
Truth: There is no emotion harder to feel then joy. It’s fleeting but you need to practice gratitude to get more joy in your life!
Everyone is creative
Some people just choose not to use it.
Unused creativity is not benign. It doesn’t float away if not used. It turns into grief and frustration.
85% of the people Brene Brown interviewed can pinpoint one moment in their childhood when they were shamed.
It forever altered the way they thought about themselves and it was almost always around creativity, like being told you didn’t draw well.
Dare greatly: The only way to not get criticized or be cynical is to do nothing. Get in the arena and get your ass kicked a little. Fight to do your meaningful work.
You don’t need to fit in.
Belonging is an essential human need. But you don’t need to fit in.
You need a tribe of People who believe in something, like my $100 Change Initiative.
Many people have already joined the movement, put their name down to support my initiative and my daring greatly.
Others left comments like `If anyone can pull this off Natalie it’s you’. Others noted this is such a big challenge they’ll be amazed if I can do it.
I could be a shrinking violet and walk away from it. I could have not had the idea to get 100 change makers to share their wisdom over 100 days and inspire hundreds of entrepreneurs to do their best work.
But then I would not be standing out or standing up for what I believe in, I’d be fitting in. And that just won’t benefit you or me.
Truth: Who you are will always trump what people believe you should be.
You don’t have to be a bold extrovert to be a leader
What it’s really about is having a deep-seated conviction.
That’s what Susan Cain believes. Author of The Power of Introverts. Susan says no-one is purely an introvert or extrovert. We are complex creatures.
We need to look past cultural bias such as the western world’s view of introverts as unfriendly and aloof. In Asian cultures itroversion is revered.
Introverts hold special powers that can make them very effective and successful as leaders and entrepreneurs, if they use the in the right way.
For example, you can hold really strong opinions but deliver them in a calm mild mannered way and be very effective in a group or team environment. Extroverts want to hear introverts good ideas, so don’t withhold them until after a meeting
While many introverts consider themselves shy, shy people are always acting in the face of fear. So courage is something they have a lead start on.
Truth: Courage is acting in the face of fear in the service of people you love.
To encapsulate all these messages, I’d like you to know that you are powerful when you’re vulnerable, and when in your introverted or extroverted state. You need to continue to get naked, to step up, to stand out and to believe in your convictions.
Only then will you be daring greatly and living on your own terms.
Tell me one truth you’ve learned from this post or one dare you’re going to take
PS make sure you learn more about the $100 Change Program inspired by Chris G